There is this stigma about colleges close to home about how you wont be independent enough, that being far from home makes you so much more independent. It is true that going out of state forces you to rely more on yourself to get you through each day. But in my opinion, going to a college only 15-20 minutes away from home can teach you equal lessons (well, at least lessons equivalent in significance). This weekend has been extremely busy and I have a good amount of homework load that still needs to be started. BUT here is one great lesson I am learning right now:
Yes, you are close enough for your family to be there for you, but at the same time, YOU need to be there for your family as well. That means going to every family dinner, helping out your grandparents whenever they need help, and even driving siblings from one place to another for some random reason. Although some of those things are fun and worthwhile, they are still time consuming nonetheless. It takes away from your social life and extracurriculars at school but more importantly your academics.
It is entirely up to you to plan your schedule accordingly. Time management is one of the greatest lessons that I am in the process of learning and hopefully mastering in due time. I am in a long distance relationship, have a family 15-20 minutes away from school, I am taking a full 16 unit course load with two 3-hour lab components, teaching local high schools about Healthy Relationships almost every week for Peer Health Exchange, and I am pledging Phi Kappa Psi. I not only have to balance all of these things in my schedule, but I also need to excel at all of them! It is certainly a difficult task, but I have the support around me in every aspect (family, girlfriend, friends) to get through all of this. That is one of the best things about being close to home as well.
I am sure those living out of state for college have their own complications, and I know they are learning a lot! But, if you chose an out of state college just because you wanted to be more independent, I just want to let you know that it isn’t impossible to still learn valuable lessons of independence.
Speaking of time management and everything, I still need to start my homework…BUT i think it is worthwhile for my millions and millions of followers to read this, which is why I am dedicating this time to educate them with my infinite wisdom…ok i’m bullshitting now haha I need to work now! :P
I definitely need to be there for my family more, especially for my lil bro.
Jacks and Joe is incredibly delicious. I WANT MORE. I got the Seven Minutes in Heaven French Toast that had bananas, strawberries, and NUTELLA. Also got a cup of joe just to top off a lovely breakfast.
Took the F Dash to the Financial District to walk to Angels Knoll
Ended up exploring Biltmore Hotel and was able to get rooftop access heehee not as cool as it sounds because we really couldn’t see anything but still, rooftop access is rooftop access nevertheless
Saw the filming of a TV show called Beautiful Mind so we sat there watching them for a bit.
Arrived at Angels Knoll and sat there for a long time just talking about life. AND WTF THEY MOVED THE BENCH. I SWEAR. THE BENCH WITH THE SIGN ON IT IS MOVED TO THE LEFT AND THE VIEW IS BLOCKED BY ALL THESE TREES. THAT IS NOT WHERE IT’S SUPPOSED TO BE. I WAS AT ANGELS KNOLL A WEEK AGO AND THE BENCH WAS EXACTLY WHERE IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE. WHAT IN THE WORLD HAPPENED.
Took the Angels Tram thing for 25 cents up and explored the Walt Disney Concert Hall
I’m interested in so many fields. From bartending to chemical engineering and journalism and law. I get that no one cares about your degree, but since these areas do all kind of require some kind of credentials, how should I prepare for them?
An Enthusiastic High School Junior
You don’t want to be a bartender. You want to be a hipster mixologist rocking out signature martinis for a bunch of starry-eyed hotties at the coolest bar you’ve never been to.
You don’t want to be a chemical engineer. You’re a fan of “Breaking Bad,” and you want to be a modern-day wizard who secretly has the knowledge to whip up a fresh batch of blue crystals.
You don’t want to be a journalist. You want to be a truth-chasing, gut-following investigative reporter with a reputation for integrity and a show on one of the cable news channels.
You don’t want to be a lawyer. You don’t even know what it means to be a lawyer. You just like the idea that if you stay in school long enough, one day you’ll be able to wear a suit and tell people that you’re a lawyer.
See what I’m getting at here? You’re not really interested in those fields. You’re interested in those identities. You’re fantasizing. You’re playing dress-up and make-believe with your future self. That’s fine. You’re a teenager. It’s what you’re supposed to be doing.
The problem is, there are a lot of twenty-somethings out there with dust gathering on their liberal arts degrees, still doing the exact same thing that you’re doing at sixteen.
I’ll give to them the exact same advice I’ll give to you: Don’t create an identity for yourself that isn’t rooted in the real world. You can bartend for a few years while putting yourself through engineering school, but whatever you end up doing, recognize that it’s gonna be a grind.
It doesn’t matter what kind of credentials you earn or what field you eventually choose. You’re guaranteed to spend at least a half-decade paying dues at the entry level. You’ll work longer hours, doing harder work than your bosses for significantly less pay. Nothing will be handed to you, and in all likelihood, the experience will be degrading and a little bit soul-crushing.
If you want to prepare for a career, then don’t pick your field based on the fantasy. Make an honest assessment of your talents, and pick your field based on the reality.
WHEN the actress Anna Faris hosted “Saturday Night Live” in October, she didn’t think much about the potential impact of “Tell Him,” a sketch that had her and the show’s female cast members singing about snagging a man by pretending to like video games and hate children…
It was also part of a pattern. With the combination of sharp writing and comically savvy female hosts, “Saturday Night Live” this season has been unusually rich in funny, provocative female-focused moments. Among the highlights: bridal shower outcasts, female office perverts, Adele-inspired bawling and Olsen twin impressions.
“In regards to respectability, do not be so overly concerned with winning the respect of your peers. First learn to give respect, then you shall find you have earned it in return.”—Omogowo Sodoyo (via hisbrotherskeeper)
And I find that to be true in a lot of aspects of life. Not just the obvious being in and out of a relationship cheesiness that seems to populate a lot of songs nowadays. After taking my part of personality tests, I have come to the conclusion that I am an extrovert. Even then, I don’t mind being alone. It’s not because I don’t have friends or I feel depressed or I feel lonely. Sometimes, it’s nice to be alone. It allows you to reflect on yourself and do some soul searching without the influence (good or bad) of your lovely and beautiful friends. It can be an oh-this-is-nice sort of silence instead of the oh-god-I-am-alone-in-the-world-and-I-need-companionship-NOW silence. I love being with friends and meeting new people, but I’ve come to realize that it’s very difficult to always be in a group, always going out, always in the public, and always presenting yourself, even if it’s just the same old you that wears sweats and a t-shirt when you’re by yourself.
Image description: The Grand Canyon stretches for 277 miles and covers more than 1 million acres of land in Arizona.
Sunday marks the 93rd anniversary of the establishment of the Grand Canyon National Park. On February 26, 1919, Congress officially passed the act establishing the park in Arizona.
Known as one of the world’s greatest natural wonders, the Grand Canyon is 277 miles and is cut down the middle by the Colorado River. The national park covers more than 1 million acres of land in northern Arizona.
Senator Benjamin Harrison was the first to create a bill protecting the Grand Canyon, and pushed for it multiple times. As President, Harrison established the Grand Canyon Forest Reserve in 1893. Senate bills to make it a national park were shot down twice, until finally, in 1919, the Grand Canyon National Park Act was signed by President Woodrow Wilson.
not the advanced lovey-dovey kind, or how to deal with your spouse, or how to be a better friend. on we-just-met-and-i-dont-know-you relationships. where the winner is the one who manages to care the least. and why is that acceptable? why is that a thing? give the least attention, get the most people interested, and you’re a champ. that makes you cool. it’s a stupid, juvenile game. where did the simple joy of optimism and enthusiasm go? where hugging someone you just met wasn’t clingy or “trying too hard”, rather compassionate and loving? so what you get excited for sour patch kids, it doesnt make you “annoying” for running up to the cashier. we live in a well-connected society where the point isn’t connection, it’s comparison. we add them on facebook or twitter or instagram to watch them, know them, and maybe the extra push or motivation from their social network activities can get us doing something. it can be positive. but it stems from something so deep and conniving, and we don’t even notice. seems so harmless, but i know this bitch didn’t add me for my pretty face.
for some reason, right about this month/season, people start getting into relationships or at least make them more public. It’s incredibly adorable. It’s also a reminder that I am single… LOL I have no idea why I keep thinking about the fact that I’m single. It’s not a big deal really. I have much more important things to worry about like midterms and that accounting quiz that is going to come up soon… :<
I wish everyone in relationships happiness :) It’s great to love and be loved by a significant other isn’t it?
My friend is playing an assassin game and now he’s afraid to go out anywhere. He just stays locked up in his room LOL the codename of the person targeting him is Bulls-Eye. I don’t he’ll last the week hahahahahaha
Well I admire the fact that he refuses to die and give up so easily.
“In so many ways, losing a close friend is worse than losing a lover. Lovers are transient for the most part but friends are supposed to be there for you always, or so we like to believe. Friendship is a special kind of love that’s not supposed to fade. You never expect the one person you thought…
Absolutely scrumptious. It’s definitely different since I had a dessert grilled cheese sandwich! Pretty pricey but worth it once in awhile. I went with Anhkhoa, Jay, and Niki.
Food I got:
Grilled Muenster Cheese Sandwich with Blackberries and Walnuts
Both came to a total to about $12. Jay got a Peanut Butter Fluff Grilled Cheese Sandwich and Niki got Cinnamon Apple Waffles. Totally satisfied my sweet tooth. I hear Blackberry Jasmine Ice Cream is really good too. I also wanted to try the Apple and Gouda Sandwich and this other one that had Almonds and something else haha. Can’t wait to go back and try other sweets!
Syrup Desserts 611 South Spring Street Los Angeles, CA 90014 Phone: 213-488-5136
Me:When I was sitting on a bench, an old man wearing a sailor hat sat down next to me and started talking to me. He was so nice.
Zach:Some old man in a sailor hat??? ahahahhaha
Me:My friend was like an old man? Isn't that creepy? But he was so nice! Gave me advice why it is a good idea that I am majoring in business.
Zach:I I know LA is full of crazies. it's cool that he was such an agreeable crazy though.
Me:It gets better. When I was sitting at Angel's Knoll, this woman sitting behind me was talking loudly to her friend on her phone. She was like "It's okay if my best friend wants to be a stripper. She has every right to show off her goods. She has some! I'm not going to tell her parents anything" soooo weird. too bad I had no one to laugh aloud with haha
Zach:ahahaha damnit i wish I had been there that'd be perfect.
I guess the beauty of living in Downtown Los Angeles is you can take a bus anywhere and go exploring. I was on my way to the Omni Hotel to work a shift for the Marshall Case Competition and I passed by Angel’s Knoll. I didn’t even know it was there! And since it turned out that they didn’t need me, I grabbed my free box of lunch, walked to Angel’s Knoll and sat on that special bench. It was a very nice bench.
I just walked around to random places for awhile and even bought a really delicious mini-cupcake at Big Man Bake.
Adventured by myself which was kind of lonely, but it was nice and peaceful heehee
Just Lin, Baby! 10 Lessons Jeremy Lin Can Teach Us Before We Go To Work Monday Morning
Lin-sanity has swept up the NBA over the last week. Now it seems like the phenomenon has gone worldwide.
Friday’s 38 point performance by Harvard grad Jeremy Lin for the New York Knicks against the LA Lakers was his greatest performance yet as a starter, since he burst on to the scene and propelled the team to 4 straight wins.
Lin now has over 200,000 followers on Twitter. He’s got over 800,000 on Weibo – including 200,000 new ones in the 24 hour period after beating the Lakers.
But there’s more to this story than basketball. This isn’t just a modern-day, real-life version of the Hoosiers movie. The Jeremy Lin story is incredibly popular because we can all see a little bit of ourselves in this man’s struggles and now successes.
What can all of us learn from this young man — and how can we apply these same lessons to our own lives when we go back to work on Monday morning?
1. Believe in yourself when no one else does. Lin’s only the 4th graduate from Harvard to make it to the NBA. He’s also one of only a handful of Asian-Americans to make it. He was sent by the Knicks to play for their D-League team 3 weeks ago in Erie, PA. He’d already been cut by two other NBA teams before joining the Knicks this year. You’ve got to believe in yourself, even when no one else does.
2. Seize the opportunity when it comes up. Lin got to start for the Knicks because they had to start him. They had too many injuries. Baron Davis was gone. The other point guards were out. Carmelo Anthony was injured. Amare Stoudemire had to leave the team because of a family death. Lin could have squandered the opportunity and we would have never have noticed. But he made the most of it. You never know when opportunities are going to arise in life. Often, they’re when you least expect them. Make the most of them. Don’t fritter them away.
3. Your family will always be there for you, so be there for them. It wasn’t until a few days ago that Lin got his contract guaranteed by the Knicks for the rest of the season. Before that, he could have been cut at any time. He had to sleep on his brother’s couch on the Lower East Side to get by. His family always believed in him and picked him up when he could have gotten down on himself. That made him continue to believe. If you want your family to believe in you like that, you’ve got to be there for them too when they need it.
4. Find the system that works for your style. Lin isn’t Michael Jordan or Kobe Bryant. He’s not a pure scorer. He’s a passer and distributor – who can also score very well. It didn’t work for him in Golden State or Houston – where he was before landing at the Knicks. But Mike D’Antoni’s system at the Knicks has been perfect for him to show off his strengths. You’ve got to do your best to understand what your strengths are and then ensure that you’re in a system (a job or organization or industry) that is a good fit for those strengths. Otherwise, people overlook the talents you bring to the table.
5. Don’t overlook talent that might exist around you today on your team. You probably manage people at your own company today. Are you sure you don’t have a Jeremy Lin living among you now? How do you know that “Mike” couldn’t do amazing things if you gave him a new project to run with? How do you know “Sarah” isn’t the right person to take the open job in London that you’ve been talking over with your colleagues? We put people around us in boxes. He’s from Harvard. He’s Asian-American. Not sure he can play. How many assumptions have you made about talent around you? Don’t be like the General Managers in Golden State and Houston, and let talent slip through your fingers. With all their money, scouts, and testing, they didn’t have a clue what they had in their hands. Do you know what your people (or even yourself) is really capable of? Take off the blinders of assumptions you wear when you look at the world.
6. People will love you for being an original, not trying to be someone else. You’ve got to be you. You can’t be some 2nd rate copy of Michael Jordan. There will never be another Michael Jordan. Just be Jeremy Lin — yourself. Whatever that is. That doesn’t mean you don’t work hard — it just means you find what you’re good at and do it. Fans will love you for being you, just like they love Jeremy Lin. Judy Garland said it best:
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.
7. Stay humble. If you one day are lucky enough to have newspapers want to put you on the cover in order to sell more, don’t let it get to your head. It’s been remarkable watching how humble Lin remains through all this media frenzy. It makes his teammates and fans love him that much more.
8. When you make others around you look good, they will love you forever. I didn’t know how good Tyson Chandler was, until I saw him playing with Jeremy Lin. Lin has set Chandler up many times over the last week for easy dunks because he drew the defense and then passed the ball. That’s partly why the Knicks are playing so well. They are all working harder to share the ball with others. And it’s beautiful to watch. And when the media swarms Lin, he tells them how good his teammates are. Do the same with your peers and reports.
9. Never forget about the importance of luck or fate in life. Some people believe in God, some in destiny, some in luck. Whatever you believe in, be grateful for it.
10. Work your butt off. Lin couldn’t have seized his opportunity if he hadn’t worked like crazy for years perfecting his skills. There are no short cuts to hard work. Success is a by product of that. If you’ve got a Tiger Mom who’s always pushed you to work hard, great. If not, let your conscience be your own Tiger Mom! Get up early, stay up late. Nobody gave Lin any free passes. Why should you get any? You can only control what you control and that means you’ve got to work harder than anyone else you know.
I hope the Lin-sanity continues. And I hope we all can apply these lessons to our own work and family life.
There’s a great line from a New York Times article on Lin and his faith which is worth it for all of us to remember (from Romans 5:3-5):
suffering produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not disappoint us.
Company Merging&Acquitisions Negotiation Test Drive
I did a Marketing Experiment today where we had to play out a negotiations meeting where me and this other person would play as representatives of two companies looking to merge together. We would have to negotiate a few agreements of what we wanted that included things like headquarter locations, lay-offs, salaries, etc. We had a chart of how many points certain options would get us and our goal was to get the most points for our individual firms. If we couldn’t come to an agreement a “third-party” would come in and give us each 260 points for the deal.
In the end my counterpart got 290 points and I got 550 points LOL
I am quite proud of myself. It was a very interesting experience. I have to say it would have been more difficult if it was someone who was more confident or stubborn haha well my company got what it wanted :D